Confidence and Finding New Friends Using Your Phone.
Recently a good friend of ours announced that he had made contact with a young lady by calling a free adult phone sex chat service. After several conversations, they had agreed to meet up but now he was nervous about the very first time he would be meeting her, face to face. Despite the fact that he felt that he’d already got to know her on the phone, he still lacked confidence.
First dates can be very intimidating, especially when you really like the person. Of course you’re going to be nervous, because you want to impress them as much as possible. But this also puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on the situation. Here are some tips for relaxing on your first date and making a good first impression.
Your Date Is Nervous Too
First and foremost, always remember that your date is probably just as nervous as you. It’s probably the first mutual feeling you can share, which establishes a middle ground.
Prepare Some Topics For Discussion
There’s nothing wrong with preparing a few topics to discuss. Decide beforehand how much information you want to share about yourself, but don’t set out to provide your life’s history in one night. There will be more than enough time to get to know each other, so focus on having a good time first.
Keep Your Expectations Realistic
Talking to somebody for five minutes and spending a few hours in their company are two different things. So, keep your expectations as realistic as possible. Don’t think about wedding rings and future plans. Instead, focus on the here and now. The person might be your life partner, or they can be somebody you only go on one date with. The moment you let go of your expectations you’ll already feel a lot more relaxed.
Approach The Date Like A Friendship
To make things easier for yourself, approach the date like you would approach a friend. Of course there will be flirting and sub-conscious signals but for the most part you want to be yourself. Don’t let the pressure to impress overshadow the person you really are. The last thing you want is to pretend to be somebody you’re not.
Choose A Comfortable Place
If the venue is a place of your choice, try to make it somewhere you’ll feel comfortable. Think about it for a second. If you don’t feel comfortable in an upscale restaurant, then it’s not going to help your situation. If possible, settle on a spot where both of you can feel confident enough to present your true selves.
Break The Routine
Last but not least, there’s no rule that says you need to go to a fancy dinner or a movie. Think outside the box and try something different. This will help to bring down the pressure that’s associated with a typical date.